I recently heard some guys talking about Stoicism, which is a philosophy that is attracting young men in these days of outrage and confusion. They were asked how Stoicism differs from Christianity.
These guys are not overtly Christian, although I think both would claim to be, and their basic conclusion is that there really was no difference. This made me chuckle.
However, I understand why they think that. The best way to go about describing how Stoicism and Christianity are different is by defining what Stoicism is. Here’s the best definition I came across:
It stressed duty and held that, through reason, mankind can come to regard the universe as governed by fate and, despite appearances, as fundamentally rational, and that, in regulating one’s life, one can emulate the grandeur of the calm and order of the universe by learning to accept events with a stern and tranquil mind and to achieve a lofty moral worth.
The basic tenet of Stoicism is to control what you can and let the rest go. Being calm and free of emotional extremes lets you know you’ve arrived at Stoic peace.
For a man-made philosophy, Stoicism isn’t bad. I like lots of things they teach. However, it does differ from biblical Christianity in a fundamental way.
But here’s where moderns will think Stoicism is just like Christianity. The modern church teaches self-help, pop-psychology with Jesus tacked on. It has largely missed the entirety of the power of the Gospel, which is that by faith the believer is crucified with Christ, they are raised up to newness of life, and they are crucified with Christ and it’s no longer I who lives but Christ who lives in me.
Instead of this, the Church teaches a few pointers for you to make your life better by ripping a few verses out of context and giving you three ways to improve your marriage and six ways to pay off your mortgage, etc.
Stoicism sees no spiritual help at all. It’s you being in control. You ignoring what you can’t control, which probably does lead to a level of emotional equilibrium.
It will also lead you to give up entirely on other people! Other people are out of your control, their emotions, reactions, thoughts, will, etc. are all out of your control. So if I’m having trouble with my wife who has a bad attitude (just a random example), I cannot control her emotional weirdness, what do I do? Check out? Sit in the corner feeling emotionally calm and superior?
Whereas the Gospel, which says I’m already dead and now am living to serve others as Christ gave His life for me, tells me to lay down my life for my wife. To do everything in my power to serve her regardless of whether she bends to my control.
Stoicism is a macho view of life. It’s the quiet lone ranger, the Clint Eastwood and Mel Gibson characters in the movies. Notice they always have terrible relationships with women! One of the guys who was saying Stoicism is just like Christianity recently got a divorce. Shocking.
Life is more than just about you and your emotional state. This is the main problem with all humanistic philosophy: it’s egocentric. It’s all about me. Pride is the main driver—don’t let anything get to you. Live above it. Be better than that. Pride is the main driver. It also looks awesome and others will pat you on the back for being so manly and in control.
I see the allure, but I also see how ridiculous it is. Jesus Christ gave His life for what was “out of His control.” I know that line will bug Calvinists, but it’s true. Jesus cried over Jerusalem because He would have gathered them as a hen gathers her chicks, but they would not come to Him.
Christ gave His life as a propitiation for the sins of the world, many have responded to His love and sacrifice by trampling the Son of God underfoot.
You lay down your life for your wife whether she responds the way you want or not. You do it because Christ did it for you. You don’t do it to control your wife or even to control you. You do it because Christ did it for you.
Stoicism says you are in control of you. Don’t let anything or anyone else get to you.
Christianity says you are gone. You no longer live. You are now to give your life for everything and everyone you come in contact with! Esteem others better than yourself. Use your strength to bear the burdens of others. You don’t just passively sit by and calmly watch the weak suffer, you give your life to build them up.
I’m sure a Stoic person would disagree with my assessment, but when I tack together all I’ve heard from these Stoic guys pretending they are nailing it in life, this is how what they say differs from true Christianity.
Jesus was no Stoic. He flipped tables. He cursed fig trees. He wept tears of blood. He gave Himself for those who did not deserve it. He did everything in His power to redeem a fallen world. The world is still fallen.
Your job in life is not to be above it all, but to place yourself beneath others to lift them up and carry their burdens no matter how much it hurts and how often it brings tears to your eyes.
It aint easy and it looks and feels miserable. Stoicism feels cool and calm and smart. It’s way more popular. Don’t think for a minute that this brand of Greek philosophy is on par with the teachings and life of Jesus Christ. In the end it won’t work. Jesus Christ is always the answer. His Gospel is what our life should be.