So, you’ve discovered that Christians are fake. You might have even left the church over their fakeness.
It’s a good thing that you were able to discern their fakeness, but what do you do with it now? Is leaving them the answer?
It might appear that way, and depending on how terrible the fake is (many awful things have been done under the name of Christianity), maybe you should have.
But, from what I’ve heard, most people who leave the church because it’s fake simply want to experience life outside of mom and dad’s Christianity, which is also a fine thing.
It means you are growing up.
My dad was a good guy, but as I’ve gotten older I’ve seen more and more some of his problems, his people pleasing, and various other character flaws that didn’t serve others including me all that well.
My mother had issues. She was far from a perfect Christian. She had many character flaws that hurt me and others.
The churches my mom and dad went to had tons of people in them with character flaws. None of them were perfect either. They did things that hurt others and me.
When I left my parent’s house for college I did not go to church for several years. I was pretty tired of church and church people. It wasn’t just fake, it was devastating to me. The church was not kind to my family.
But I read the Bible. I started to read the actual words of God and study them for understanding. I concluded that my parents and others in the church did not have perfect doctrine. I felt a call to get back in the church.
I could sit on the sidelines and judge, or use my supposed wisdom and get in there and try to help. So I changed my major and pursued pastoral ministry.
I was a pastor for 21 years and was hurt by a very long list of people in the church. I saw fake like you wouldn’t believe and got hurt by many fake people.
The pain was real. The pain was pretty much the only real thing I’ve gotten out of church in my entire lifetime of being in it.
But I can’t leave it.
Because behind the pain and the fake there are genuine believers. There is a fellowship of believers, a new family, a like-mindedness, a love and compassion that I have not found anywhere else.
Someone once told me due to my pain experienced in the church that I should “leave the church and follow Christ.”
I found that funny, because it’s because I am following Christ that I am still in the church.
It’s the only reason I’m still there. I have not gotten rich off the church. In fact, in many ways I have sacrificed to be in it. Even after 21 years of real pain as a pastor, I started going to another church after resigning because the church is important.
Yes, there are fake people there and you will get hurt there. You will, no doubt about it. That’s what people do. I am a people. You are a people. But we need each other. I can’t just hate my mom and dad and church people and everyone who wasn’t better. I’d be all alone if I did that. It’s no answer because I’m left with me who is also not perfect!
We need each other to grow in Christ. To become less like our fake selves and more like the real, true Jesus Christ.
God knows you. He knows you intimately. He knows your thoughts. He knows your past. He knows your fake and everyone’s fake that is around you.
What do you think God does with His knowledge of your sin and fake and weakness? Do you think He leaves you? Do you think He gives up on you and takes off to find someone who isn’t so fake?
God knows you. He has every right to leave you, especially after all the things you’ve taken from Him with no gratitude. You’ve taken Him for granted. You’ve sinned against Him, pushed against Him with all your fleshly might.
He will never leave you or forsake you.
He loves you. Love is the answer.
Yes, people are fake and they will hurt you.
People were fake and hurt Jesus Christ. One of His own disciples, Judas Iscariot, played his part. He turned out to be fake and hurt Jesus immensely.
What was Jesus’ response? He called Judas his friend and asked His Father to forgive Him.
God loves you. He has shown you how to best deal with fake people. You are a fake person before Him. He is all truth. We are liars, we are fake pretenders. He doesn’t leave you when He learns who you are. He knows our frame, He knows we are made of dust. He knows everything about us. He formed you in your momma’s womb!
He doesn’t leave. He still loves. He’s willing to forgive.
So, you’ve discovered fake people around you. You’ve had bad experiences with people. What will you do with that? Find another group of people? Stay all by yourself in isolation?
Or will you be like your Father in heaven and forgive people, hang in there with them, love them and show them mercy and grace because that is exactly what you need from them?
Love is the answer. God is love. God demonstrated His love toward us that while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.
You’ve found the church to be filled with fake people. You can leave them and conclude you’re better, or you can be like Jesus Christ and lay down your life for them, show them love, grace, forgiveness, and compassion.
This is what Christ has done for you. This is what your soul is crying out for. All the other places you’re looking will not answer your deepest need.
When you come to Christ you put an end to your fake and then you become more and more forgiving and loving to the fake people around you.
You’re not better. I’m not better. We’re all fighting the same battle. Christ gives the victory. Will you let Him win you?