Men, Women, and the Bible

There is a lot of confusion in the world about gender today and the church hasn’t done much to help unfortunately. On the extremes are churches that follow the world’s ideas and on the other end are those who use caricatures of macho masculinity and brain dead, servant femininity.

In the middle ground is just a bunch of confusion trying not to get sucked into either extreme.

Sticking with what the Bible says will help, but it requires study and thought.

Viewing Eve as a help meet has given the idea that Eve is here to do a job, a task needs to be done by Adam and Eve came to help him do it. But this seems pretty shallow. Certainly women are more than just brain dead servants of men.

When I was first married I wanted my wife to just say “yes” to my ideas and not question me. My insecurity was riled up when she gave any kind of pushback to my brilliance. But here’s the thing: over time I realized I wasn’t that brilliant and there was this whole other person in my house who could help me be smarter!

It was a revelation!

Help meet can be translated as “help against.” The word translated “meet” in the KJV means before, against, or face to face. Women are not inferior to men, and they do not exist to carry out work for men. Women were created because it was not good for man to be alone, he needed help, someone who could add insight and value to life. Men and women are finite. We don’t know everything. Men and women see things differently. We need to do better at seeing the differences and appreciating them, and also not letting our insecurities tick us off about the opposite gender!

We’re all created to be beneficial, to build up one another. Husbands and wives are here to sanctify each other (1 Corinthians 7:14). When men and women see value in each other, respect each other, chill long enough to not be threatened by each other, we all benefit.

Proverbs 11:22 says, “As a jewel of gold in a swine’s snout, so is a fair woman which is without discretion.” The word “discretion” is primarily translated as “taste!” Women have taste! I’ve been a man for a long time and have lived with other men and am quite familiar with how men live. Boy howdy, did this world need someone created with some taste!

Women have much to offer; so do men. It’s time we stop hating on one another and start appreciating each other for what we each bring to the table. Women were not created to be beasts of burden for men. They were created to bring some taste, discretion, and judgment into a man’s life. To be face to face, taking on the world together, and helping each other progress toward the Lord.

You don’t have to be married to benefit from a better view of each other. Humility is always a key. Fleshly desire always messes up relationships. With the Spirit I do believe Christian men and women can model something truly beautiful and beneficial. Even if you disagree with the translation of “help meet,” I hope we can all agree to by love serve one another.

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