“Strong” People Are Only Hurting Themselves

This is a pet peeve post. If I am talking about you, I mean no offense, just trying to help.

Every once in a while, I see this thing on Facebook that says something like, “The problem with being a strong person is that no one ever asks how you are doing.”

I find this an odd statement for several reasons.

1) A person who has to tell others they are strong is not a strong person. A strong person really doesn’t care about what others think of them, so they have no need to tell people they are strong. As proverbs says,Let another man praise thee, and not thine own mouth.”

2) Strong people, by definition, don’t need others to ask how they are doing. Being “strong” means you are able to handle everything. Strong people don’t need people to care about them.

3) This statement is implying that the strong person isn’t strong, which is why they want a sympathetic question asked of them. If you have a need for someone to give you permission to whine, you are not a strong person.

4) Being strong is not the point. Paul said, “When I am weak, then am I strong.” This Facebook statement is a humanistic, girl-power kind of statement that has nothing to do with biblical notions of strength.

We are to be strengthened in the Lord and in the power of His might. If you are doing this, you won’t have to try to act strong in front of people to keep your facade of strength, nor will you need to mope about how no one asks you questions.

When you are weak, embrace that. Stop taking yourself so seriously. His grace is sufficient.

When you say statements like this, you are proving what everyone already knows about you: you’re not really strong, you just think you are.

You’re not strong. Being strong in yourself is no virtue. Be strong in the Lord.

Perhaps if you embraced this point, you’d have more people caring about you.