Walking Away in a Marital Argument Aint Always Bad

“Never walk away when you are in an argument” is not one of the worst bits of marital advice I’ve ever heard, but it is close to the top.

Walking away is better than saying really dumb things. I have found this out through some degree of trial and error.

Walking away can be therapeutic, but make sure the walking away is ended at some point.

Yesterday I mentioned that “forgive” is from a Greek word often translated “leave.” An example is in Matthew 18:12, “if a man have an hundred sheep, and one of them be gone astray, doth he not leave the ninety and nine, and goeth into the mountains, and seeketh that which is gone astray?”

That word “leave” is the word also translated forgive.

Recently my wife and I were “discussing” something and although we were not arguing, we were not effectively communicating. I was not getting what she was saying and we were both getting frustrated at my inability to follow her train of thought.

Because her thoughts were on a taxi at the time.

I was getting frustrated after finally thinking I had understood what she was saying, only to discover I was nowhere near. I stood there with lots of thoughts running around my head, none of which my brain deemed helpful to share.

Instead of a multitude of things I could have said, I went with, “I’m going to go run now.”

As I ran I processed what happened, realized I was at fault, realized what odd emotion in me caused me to miss her point and formulated a three point outline to resolve the issue and/or beg for mercy.

It worked fantastically. I have used this strategy in the past and found it to be quite effective. Remove yourself, go talk it out in your brain, pray, admit your fault, devise a plea for leniency and move forward.

Just walking away won’t help. The walking away has to be for a purpose, to discern truth and to get true with your emotions and thoughts, bringing them under captivity to the obedience of Christ.

Forgiveness is leaving something for a walk in the mountains, so says Matthew 18:12 (sort of). Go for a walk with God, get yourself right with Him and then with the one you need to forgive and/or the one who you want to be forgiven by.

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