“Love” has a way of making us blind. A woman falls in love with a guy, marries him, and then “he changes” a few months in and they want a divorce. Voters fall in love with their candidate, only to have them disappoint everyone.
Looking through the eyes of “love,” maybe better called infatuation, makes sure we miss out entirely on reality. People don’t “change” for the worse, generally we just find out more information.
The answer to this problem is not to cease loving people. The answer is to seek to love God through Jesus Christ, make love for Him the supreme thing.
Love for Christ will reveal to you the weaknesses in others, the illogical ideas of being solely devoted to a fellow sinner. When we love Christ we are not taken in by marketing, romantic gifts or word-heavy promises.
On the contrary, we will see right through these things and detect the reality. We will not be tossed to and fro with every wind of doctrine. We will not put our trust in men but in God.
This is the only safe place to be–in God’s perfect love, which casts out fear.