There is entirely too much arguing in my house. The main cause of arguing is due to children taking things too literally. This conversation will serve as my for instance:
KID: “Dad, what time is it?”
ME: “Five o’clock.”
KID: “Nuh-uh, it’s 4:58.”
That, right there, is the main content of much of the childish conversation in our home. It is unnecessary and stupid. First of all, 4:58 might as well be 5. Second, if you can tell me it’s 4:58 and not 5, why did you ask me?
I recently lectured my children, with many other timely examples, on this issue and told them that I was helping them put away a childish attribute, which will serve them well.
I then proceeded to tell them that the church is made up of stupid conversations like this. As a pastor I get much of this sort of thing every day. Work with me people.
–When I say that dispensationalism went off the deep end: this does not mean that I am not a dispensationalist or that dispensationalists are heretic scum.
–When I say that all believers will experience a process of growth and victory over sin: this does not mean I believe in perfectionism, cessationism, Pharisaism, legalism, etc.
–When I say that grace is overblown to the expense of holiness: this does not mean that I think grace is less valuable, worthless, antinomian, worm infested rot, etc.
People who jump to conclusions based on their hyper-literalness are acting like 7-year olds. This does not mean I have anything against 7-year olds. It means that 35-year olds should be more mature.
Rather than getting hyper-literal, just be literal and listen to what was just said.